Moving
house can be a distressing experience for children.
Children like stability and can find it hard to
adapt to changes. Involve your children from the
start. Whether you are buying or renting let your
children decide if they like the new home and
the area before you decide to move there.
Communicate
It is very important that you let your children
know all you can about the new home, area, schools
etc.. Children are very imaginative and can build
their own version of how things are going to be.
Research the area for schools and activities that
are of interest to them and share your knowledge
with them. This will put their minds at rest and
they can start looking forward to the move. or
tease them about questions they may have that
seem trivial to you they are very important to
your kid/s.
Encourage
your children to talk about any worries that they
might have. Try to understand their concerns the
best you can and reassure them that you are there
for them and that you will help them to adjust
as much as possible.
Allow your children time to grieve over leaving
behind their home, school, friends and family.
Encourage them to write or let their friends visit
(if you don`t live to far a way.) Take them to
visit their favourite places one last time before
you move.
Involve
the kids
Take the children to have a look at the new home
and the neighbourhood. If you live to far away
from the new home and can`t take the kids take
photos for them to look at so that they can get
a feel for the new home.
Don`t
let your children stay with relatives or friends
while you are moving. Instead, include the children
in unpacking and arranging their new rooms. Arrange
children's rooms first, they'll feel more secure
if surrounded by familiar things.
Moving
with small children
Take them to the new home and let them visit parks
and play groups in the area.
Leave
toilet training and other routine changes until
your child is fully settled into the new home.
Allow
them to choose their own rooms.
Visit
the new school with your children several times
before the first day
Sort
their room out first to get them settled.
Expect
some regressive behaviors, such as thumb-sucking,
sleep disturbances, or bed-wetting to appear before.
It might take them a while to get settled. Reassure
your children at all times and don`t shout at
them if they are a behaving a bit badly.
Let
them help you pack a box with their favorite toys,
books, bedtime companions, and clothes this will
make them feel more comfortable when traveling.
After
a few weeks check with them concerning school,
their new room, friends, etc
Moving
with older children
Throw a party for your children to say good bye
to their friends properly..
Give
your children specific jobs to help with the move.
Let them know that their cooperation is essential
and appreciated. Let them pack their own things.
Encourage
your child to investigate your new community by
visiting or writing for information, then sharing
it with the rest of the family.
Research
the area for activities and clubs that your children
wil be interested in.
Let
them to choose and decorate their own rooms.
Take
your children a long to visit their new school
before their first day.
Do
not try to convince them of how much they will
like the new home, neighbours, school and the
area. Only they can decide on how long it will
take them to adjust.
Try
to time your family's move to coincides with the
beginning of a new school year or term. Making
new friends is easier when a new term is just
starting.
Let
them know that they can invite their friends to
come and stay at weekends and on holidays.