You
are in a club and
a gorgeous guy is
standing next to
you at the bar,
you want to ask
him to dance, to
talk to him. But
stop there is a
voice saying "what
if he doesn`t like
me, what if he has
a girlfriend".
To late he is already
on the dance floor
with the girl that
asked him to dance.
You are left standing
at the bar feeling
miserable and foolish
at not having the
guts to ask him
to dance. Not to
mention jealous
because this other
girl has him now.
Now
you need to start
thinking about getting
over this fear of
rejection before
it takes control
of your life. We
only have one life
and should not use
up any of the valuable
time regretting
what might have
happened if only
we weren't afraid
of rejection. (Because
you will regret
it.)
Write a short letter
to yourself about
how you felt the
first time you were
rejected by anyone.
Sad, a failure,
useless and so on.
Now
write what happened
as a result of the
rejection. Not how
you felt, but look
back over the days,
weeks, months and
even years how would
your life had changed
if you hadn't been
rejected. Maybe
you were rejected
by a man and he
is now, a slob,
a millionaire or
even dead. Would
you have met your
husband, (if married)
the partners you
have had since.
Is this good or
bad? Do the same
exercise for being
rejected from a
job, parents etc..
It is very important
that you do this
task. At the end
of it you will no
whether this was
an act of fate and
that you are much
happier with what
you have got or
whether things have
never been so bad
for you. You will
often find that
things have gotten
better.
If
things have been
bad ever since,
ask yourself why
and be truthful.
Did the rejection
stop you from asking
a gorgeous guy out
or any guy for that
matter? Are you
still stuck in the
same job because
you were afraid
to apply for a higher
paid job in case
of rejection.
Now
you have established
how you feel about
rejection and the
role rejection has
played in your life.
It is now time to
write down all the
things that you
have regretted not
doing because of
the fear of rejection.
Like
before is the thing
you regretted not
doing anything that
is worth regretting.
The one question
that really needs
to be asked is are
you happy? There
is many ifs and
buts and whether
your life changed
for better or worse
that is in the past
and now as you sit
and stare at the
screen you are in
your past, present
and future and you
need to look at
what is important.
Is my life good?
Am I happy? Have
I got what I want?
If you have answered
yes then you are
on the wrong page
but thanks for taking
the time to read
this.
If
the answer is no
to these questions
then you need to
start thinking about
tomorrow and how
to make it better
than today.
You
have already established
what is wrong. Fear
of rejection and
until you get over
this fear you will
never be happy because
you will always
be living on "If
only".
