How
to get over being dumped
Virtually
everyone has been dumped at some time
in their life. I know I have and I know
how much it hurts. Rejection is like
a severe pain something twisting your
insides. You may even feel nausea, headaches
and even sickness. You may even find
that for some reason you are subject
to every cold and bug within a mile
of you. Picking up the pieces is very
tough. You will wish that your life
could go back to the way it was before
he left and you will live in hope that
he will return. You may even feel that
no body will ever want you and that
you will never find love again. This
is of course nonsense but you will not
realise it until the day you are finally
over him.
So,
how can you get over the pain? How can
you learn to live again? How can you
stop feeling that you are unlovable
and unwanted and that fate has marked
you out for a lifetime of solitude,
misery and bad luck? How can you start
to enjoy your new single life and start
to have some fun?
The
first step
You have to realise that he is not coming
back to you. This is a painful process
and it doesn't matter whether you are
young and have lost the boy of your
dreams or you are a 40 year old who
has been left by her philandering husband
of 20 years. The healing process is
still the same.
Remember
that you will get over him. It might
not seem like that right now but believe
me in time you will.
Cry
Let it all out. You may cry for a day,
a week even a month or two and when
the crying stops you will know you are
half way there.
Talk
Talk to your friends and family. Talk
about your ex until you have no words
left to say. You will know you are getting
better when you are bored with the subject
yourself.
Get
angry
Shout, yell, scream even punch a pillow
(don't punch anyone though as you can
end up in serious trouble.) Let all
your anger out. Then take 5 minutes
to calm yourself down by taking some
deep breathes and not moving. You will
feel much better at letting all your
anger out and feel even better once
you are calm.
Look
after yourself
You may be off your food, not sleeping
properly, over drinking, smoking generally
not looking after yourself. With all
the added stress this will begin to
show. Take long, hot scented baths,
play music that helps you to let your
feelings out and allow other people
to get close to you and to care for
you
