Fling
or the real thing?
How
do you really know if it
is lust or love. In a life
time the average person
falls in love at least 4
times. But is it really
love. Here are the signs
to be aware of before you
decide if he is the right
one.
Communication
Being honest with each other
in a relationship is very
important and it is also
important that you get to
know the person properly
before you commit yourself.
How well do you know him?
Is the only talking you
do bedroom talk?
Good
signs
- You
talk openly about life
issues such as finances,
children, things that
frighten you, where
you want your life to
go.
- You
can argue and come to
some sort of compromise
at the end of it. Better
still you argue it proves
that you have the ability
to talk.
- You
are open and honest
with each other about
your feelings.
Warning
signs
- You
only know his favourite
colour, what paper he
reads. You are afraid
to ask him in-depth
questions about his
life for fear of rejection
or what you might find
out.
- You
don`t discuss how you
are feeling with each
other and builds up
inside you, often resenting
each other.
- Neither
of you is willing to
forgive one another.
Love
I don`t believe a long
lasting relationship/marriage
can survive without love.
So is it love or are you
just kidding yourself?
Good
signs
- In
a crisis you stand by
each other no matter
what the result.
- You
make sacrifices to make
the other person happy.
- You
are truthful and honest
and don`t keep secrets
from one another.
- You
are emotionally, physically,
and mentally compatible.
- You
are friends as well
as lovers.
Warning
signs:
- When
the going gets tough,
he gets going.
- He
has an eye for the ladies
and has proved to be
untrustworthy.
- He
lies to you about where
he has been and only
confesses when you find
out the truth.
- There
is little physical affection,
laughter, or communication
between the two of you.
- He
has been unfaithful
on numerous occasions.
Respect
A relationship is about
friendship, respect, and
acceptance of one another.
When there is lack of
respect for the other
trust and respect is replaced
by suspicion and can slowly
grow to hatred.
Good
signs:
- You
are aware of your partner's
faults and are able
to accept some imperfections.
- You
support and encourage
each other’s individual
interests and identity.
- You
take the time to listen
and understand the other`s
point opinion.
Warning
signs:
- You
criticize each other
in front of others.
- He
will not give you space
to indulge in your interests
and wants to spend every
minute of the day with
you.
- You
are constantly struggling
to live up to his standards
or the person you think
he wants you to be.
- You
can`t forgive and/or
forget each others mistakes.
