First
Date Do's and Don'ts
First dates are very nerve racking
and often leave us shy, silent and
blowing are chances of getting a second
one because we weren't prepared for
this one. Here are some pointers to
help you get the best start and make
a good impression.
Do
1.
Be on time - The last thing you
want to do is make a bad impression
on your date. If you are late they
will think that you don`t care and
worse still might not hang around
for you to turn up.
2.
Make your partner feel comfortable
- We all feel like a bag of nerves
on our first date with someone; so
by making them feel comfortable you
will also be able to relax and enjoy
yourself.
3.
Be an interesting date - The worse
thing you can do is turn up for a
date with someone then sit there all
night and talk or worse still talking
and not making sense or having nothing
good to talk about.
4.
Laugh at their jokes - Even if
you have heard the joke 100 times
or more (or it just isn't funny at
all) laughing a long with them will
make them feel you are interested
in them.
5.
Keep the conversation alive -
That dreaded silence when no one knows
what to say can seem to last for a
life time and will make both of you
think the other is boring. Jot down
a few questions you would like to
ask. Practicing for the date can make
all the difference and once you have
started the rest will just follow.
6.
Take an interest in them - Listen
to them when they are talking. Be
interested in what they have to say
and show how interested you are by
asking them questions about what they
like to do etc..
7.
Take them somewhere unique - First
dates don`t just have to be about
going to the cinema or to a restaurant
for a nice meal. You will make a longer,
lasting impression if you are imaginative
with your date.
8.
Be confident - Confidence says
a lot about a person. Being more confident
will help you get through that first
date with ease.
9.
Be yourself -
You won`t fool anyone by pretending
to be someone you are not. Also if
you are wanting to continue seeing
them, the real you will come out eventually
and they may no longer be interested.
10.
Most importantly - STAY SAFE.
Don't
1.
Be late - First impressions count
and if you are late this will make
them think of you as lazy, having
lack of responsibilities, etc..
2.
Talk about yourself all night
- There is nothing worse then a person
that loves to talk about themselves
all the time. How vain can you get?
3.
Talk about past relationships all
night - May be that`s how you
lost the last one. Nobody wants to
hear you drone on about your ex and
what they did or didn`t do. Concentrate
on this one and see if you can get
to the second date.
4.
Eat with your mouth open - Just
the thought of it makes my stomach
turn so save your date the horrible
experience.
5.
Ask too many personal questions
- This is your first date and they
won`t want to reveal to much about
themselves just yet. If you like each
other and want to continue with the
relationship then there will be plenty
of time to ask questions.
6.
Try to be something you are not
- You will only attract the way that
you act and if that is not the real
you, when the real you does come out
the other person will not be interested.
Find someone that will want you for
you not for what you are pretending
to be.
7.
Forget to thank them for the date
- Not only is this good manners but
this is where you will get your chance
to end it if you are not interested
or for you to ask them out on another
date if you would like to see them
again.
8.
Propose marriage or kids - Unless
you don`t want to see them again.
9.
Pursue sex after your partner has
said no
10.
Don`t get drunk - You don`t want
to spend half the night in the toilet
vomiting and your date won't think
much of you. You can also put yourself
at risk of unwanted advances and will
not be in the right frame of mind
or body to do anything about it.