Chatroom
dating
Chatrooms
are a great place to meet potential
friends, and perhaps lovers and even
better you don't have to dress up
and pass visual inspection to go there.
The
anonymity of a chatroom means that
if you mess up or you don`t want to
continue to get to know him you can
just leave the chat room and don`t
go back or you can change your log-in
nickname.
This is not a license to be obnoxious,
but it does give you plenty of room
to practice making friends with strangers.
Here
are some tips to help you out when
using chat rooms.
Stay
safe
Protect
your identity
If you want total control of the information
that is to often revealed to the world
through chatroom, don't use your personal
or your work-related e-mail. You should
sign up for an e-mail account specifically
to use for chatting on line.
Don`t
reveal private information
Be careful about the information you
give in casual conversation. Don`t
give any hint of your work place,
your home town or other personal info
that can be linked to where you come
from.
Listen
to your head
Use your common sense and judgment.
If someone sounds creepy or a bit
dodgy, there's a good chance they
are. If your flirting is getting a
bit out of hand for your like speak
up or change your e-mail address and
nickname.
Getting
to know people
Be
honest
If you want people to be open and
honest with you, you must also do
the same. You don`t have to go into
personal details but don`t pretend
to be someone your not other wise
you will only attract the people that
are looking for the type of person
you are pretending to be.
Don`t
expect to much
Remember that you are using a chartroom
so you have no idea what this person
really looks like or what his personality
is like. You may build a mental image
of him. Don`t because 9 out 10 you
will be wrong and will feel disappointed
if he doesn't live up to your expectations.
Keep an open mind and you won't be
disappointed.
Develop
common activities
Make dates with each other to
share activities, like playing online
games or sharing a forum. Talk about
how long you expect to communicate
online before meeting.
Don`t
fake photos
If you decide to swap pictures, send
a current picture which is flattering,
but doesn't hide or distort your true
appearance. Misleading pictures are
probably the leading cause of disappointments
in relationships that start on the
Internet. What ever you do make sure
that you give him a photo of you and
not someone else or you'll never be
able to meet him because he will think
you are someone else.
Meeting
If You get to the point in your online
relationship where you decide you
want to meet each other, arrange to
meet in public where you will be comfortable
and safe. Meet in a busy place, over
coffee or a casual meal. Be prepared
in case you don`t like him and have
a back up plan. Ask a friend to phone
you an hour after meeting him and
you can tell her you will phone her
later if you two are getting on well.
If you aren't getting on well you
can make an excuse and leave. Remember
to always let someone know where you
are at all time.
