Fred:
"Excuse me, I just
wanted to tell you that
I find you very beautiful
and, um, I was wondering
if, um, you could buy me
a drink. Oh, I mean, if
I could buy you a shrink,
I mean drink?"
Primary
Target: "Get lost
a**hole!"
Fred:
"Lesbian!"
Primary
Target: "Bubba,
this guy just insulted me."
Boyfriend:
KAPOW! WHACK! BAM! KABAM!
Familiar
Territory
Most men will agree that
approaching women is probably
one of the most stressful
situations they can find
themselves in. The reason
for such emotions comes
from the fear of being rejected
by a woman. This fear is
so strong that it causes
men to behave in very abnormal
ways, such as stuttering
like never before or engaging
in completely irrational
behaviour.
For
example, once I was standing
at a bar when a man leaned
over toward me and said,
"Whew, would you look
at that sexy woman, hmm,
I'd sure like to get into
her panties." So I
told the fellow to go talk
to her. But he insisted
on having a couple of drinks
before moving in on his
target.
An
hour later, the fellow was
still at the bar looking
her way. The nice thing
was that she too was looking
his way and maintaining
his gaze. At one point,
she even smiled at him.
She was giving him all the
right signals and her body
language was definitely
inviting.
Hesitation
leads to masturbation
But instead of encouraging
him to make a move, the
staring rally only motivated
him to turn back toward
the barmaid and order another
drink. By this time, the
shy fellow became very excited
due to all the attention
he was getting.
The
only problem was that he
had no clue how to approach
this woman, coupled with
the fact that he already
had a few JD shots and five
beers.
Two
hours later, the woman left
with a very disappointed
look on her face while my
new buddy was asleep on
the bar. What happened?
Well, the poor man was so
nervous that he drank himself
to sleep and never had the
chance to approach the beautiful
woman. Needless to say,
this man was going to spend
another lonely night with
his hand. Pathetic!
The
preparation
Okay, let's get one thing
straight: Unless you're
Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt,
you will get rejected. Even
The Player gets rejected
once in a while. So understand
that it's normal to be rejected;
it's part of the dating
game.
No
one person can please everyone.
Some women like blond men,
while others like dark-haired
men. Some women like chubby
men while others like muscular
men. Some women like tall
men while others prefer
vertically challenged ones.
She might even already have
a boyfriend. The secret
is to not take rejection
personally.
You
can't let the fear of rejection
prevent you from approaching
a woman. My conversion ratio
is about 30%, which means
that for every ten women
I meet, seven will reject
me and three will speak
to me.
Now
you might think that 30%
is pretty low, but it sure
beats 0, which is the case
when you don't approach
any women at all. So you've
guessed it -- the reason
why I always meet women
is because I always approach
at least eight to ten of
them.
I'll
admit it, rejection is not
easy to digest, but there
are a couple of steps you
can take before approaching
a woman to measure the probability
of success. In my case,
I will never approach a
woman unless I know that
my chances of being rejected
are low. This is why I have
a conversion ratio of 30%.
The
few men who have the courage
to approach women do it
blindly and without any
observation. This means
that their conversion ratio
is very low, which is, in
itself, bad for the ego.
Before approaching a woman,
I recommend observing two
key factors: body language
and flirting.
Information
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