1.Don't
drag it out - When it is over, it's over.
You're not doing your partner or yourself any
favours by delaying the inevitable. Rather sooner
than later.
2.
Be
honest - The oldest line is "it's me
not you" Although this might be easier
the only way you can truly help this guy is
by being completely honest with him and it will
help him understand why you are breaking up.
3.
Don't overlap - The worst thing you can
do is be seeing someone before you tell your
guy that it is over. Plus your future partner
will always have that doubt in his head. Will
you do the same to him?
4.
Can we be friends? - Don't expect to be
friends after a break up. Even if you were friends
before you became intimate your friendship can
never be the same again.
5.
Let him have his say - Don't expect to end
it and him leave it at that, especially if it
has come out the blue. He will want to ask questions,
try to talk you round. Let him have his say
this will give you the chance to explain in
full why you want to end the relationship. Think
about how you would feel if you where the one
being dumped you would want to ask questions.
6.
Don't do it in a public place - Even if
you don't like this guy the worse thing you
can do is dump him in a public place. It is
the ultimate humiliation.
7.
Write down how you feel - Ending it face
to face can be very difficult. Write a letter
explaining why you want to break up. But deliver
it in person, and be there to talk with him
afterwards.
8.
Don't feel guilty - More often than not
when we try to end a relationship we are made
to feel guilty by the other which makes us stay
and hate the person more. If you want out then
no matter how much he begs, how much he says
he'll change, how much he has done for you,
stick to your decision before things get worse.
9.
Don't pick a fight - The only way we pick
a fight is to ease the guilt which makes the
other feel guilty when the relationship ends
thinking that it is his fault. Again get straight
to the point and don't make him suffer more
than he has to.
10.
Leave as you would like to be left - Being
dumped is a horrible business so try to think
about if you got dumped how you would like it
to be done. Do to others as you would have done
to yourself. (great saying)
